Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Because I Don't Want To Be A Bridezilla

I mentioned in my last post about the stress I've been experiencing in wedding planning. These last few days have been much better (ptL!), but I had started to get super overwhelmed. There seemed to be endless details that needed to be taken care of, and though I would think "well, once I figure this out, I can take a break and not stress," I realized that just cleared the way for the next task. It was hard to think about other things (woke up thinking about planning), I had trouble sleeping and I was getting impatient with people. The monster in me was coming out.

I could talk about how "people spend more time planning for their wedding than their marriage" like I've read in books or heard people say. But my problem, I feel, is knowing how to do all the wedding planning keeping Christ as the center. It's not like I can ignore everything that I have to plan or put it aside as not as worth my time and I don't think it's just a matter of "caring too much". I could easily swing to the extreme of "just do whateverrr, it's just a day," but I want to bring everything, including all the logistics and heart prep for the wedding/marriage, under the reign of God as part of my spiritual act of worship.

I've been wondering things like...How do I budget in a way that is Christ-honoring? How do I prioritize in a way that is in love to God and people? How do I make decisions in the freedom of Christ? How do I plan in trust? How do I seek God in all this? How do I keep the wedding in perspective of eternity and at the same time believe that God cares about this part of my life too?

I figure then as I go through this process, it'll give me something to blog about! I think it'll help me to stop and process to write out what I'm learning. So, I guess I'll do some updates in the future about what God is teaching me in all the wedding planning craziness, how I'm being challenged, how we're experiencing his grace, etc. Yay! Even writing this has made me more excited about the ways I can grow during this planning process and I feel like it's already made this stretch of time (engagement) more meaningful than just prepping for "the big day." Sweet!

3 comments:

Nathan said...

hmmm...do you know alvina?

http://timandalvina.blogspot.com/

I am but of yesterday... said...

hi faith! i've been learning a lot about budgeting, prioritizing, and learning just how to be a responsible, healthy adult while honoring christ in those details of my life. i know we're not on the same phase in life right now but i appreciate reading this post, because it helps me to remember that we're all kind of on the same wavelength, in some sense. learning to grow and position ourselves to be all that Christ wants us to be here, in the here and now, while keeping our focus on eternity. when my best friend got married, she needed a lot of prayers in the planning process. so, this is a good opportunity to keep you on my heart. <3 take care, faith!

... said...

hey you! i actually found this on google because i'm in austin right now visiting family, and i left your invitation back in dallas, but i was trying to find your wedding website. either way, so i googled "faith chan wedding", and this is what came up. it's really good and refreshing to hear about how grateful you are to God for everything, and it's great to hear how you're learning lessons through every situation, even wedding planning. =] its pretty crazy how old and "grown up" we are now, but it makes me glad to know that you're still basically the same, just more mature and even more rooted in faith. =] anyway, miss you lots, see you in a couple months!!

- jessi.